Friday, February 28, 2014

HOW GOAL DIRECTED ARE YOU?

Let’s start with an assumption.  People are generally goal directed.  There is our desire for food, for rewarding relationships, for a measure of success, and the list goes on.  Where do you fit within the dimension of goal directedness? Do you have long and short term goals?  Are your goals specific, well defined, achievable, likely to come to fruition?

These may seem easy questions to answer.  Most people would quickly report they are goal directed.  When asked what their goals might be, they often make vague comments about being happy, becoming successful, living a good and healthy life.

Be sure to note, these are indeed, very vague goals and not so easy to achieve.  This is where Social Learning Theory (SLT) enters the scene, helping you bring clarity and definition to your own goal directedness.

As mentioned in other posts, this Blog builds upon the Social Learning Theory of Dr. Julian B. Rotter, ranked among the most influential psychologists of the 20th century.  A basic assumption of SLT is human behavior is purposeful, and it is our privilege to pursue self-defined goals and a life of our particular choosing.  Let’s see what this means.

If you feel aimless, as though you are drifting through life, your daily experience is that of a tumble weed, then it is likely you are not all that fulfilled, are not experiencing a gratifying sense of accomplishment, and are not particularly happy.  You might be asking questions such as “Who am I?” and “What does it all mean?”

Consider this.  It is difficult to define personal goals when you are feeling tense, anxious, angry, and crowded by emotional turmoil.  Your feelings can dominate your consciousness and you spend your time trying to fix them.  In so doing, you might try recreational or prescription drugs, going to doctors, looking for solutions basically outside yourself.  An alternative is to look inside yourself for the answers you seek.  There are important voices within, seeking expression.  Listen to them.

When you do Relaxation Therapy, you experience inner calm, peace within, a feeling that life is actually okay, at least for now, in this moment.  It is during these moments when we are most clear as to what we want from life and what we can do to achieve satisfying results.

I invite you to try something.  Do Relaxation Therapy.  Then, when you return to a wakeful consciousness, ask yourself what matters most to you.  Let yourself FEEL the answer.  Allow yourself to feel who you are and what you want from life.  Feel and allow the answers to surface as they may.  You might be surprised to discover you have achievable goals, modest or magnificent as they may seem to be.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Monday, February 24, 2014

WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU IN YOUR LIFE?

I have asked this question to thousands of people in my seminars across North American for over three decades.  The answer almost always is, “My health and the health of my family.”  So what does this have to do with you?

If your health is truly this important, I would expect you would do whatever it takes to accomplish desired results.  But, this is not always the case and perhaps more often simply not the case.  We do what we do in the moment, satisfying current needs at the expense of the larger goal to achieve rewarding health.

Let’s consider an example:  John knows he needs adequate sleep.  He retires for the evening, fatigued, has a few drinks to calm his nerves, and then takes a sleeping pill or two.  Perhaps he doesn’t know better OR, perhaps he is doing what serves the convenient moment, requiring no self-discipline or thought.  Since adequate, quality sleep is a fundamental requirement for good health, John will soon find himself in trouble, not only health wise, but also in his performance at work and in his interpersonal relationships.  John simply can’t continue to perform adequately, not to mention competitively, without a rested body and a clear mind.

Let’s say John learns about Relaxation Therapy and tries it, and does so without sleeping pills or alcohol.  Let’s say John has a great night’s sleep and wakes up feeling refreshed and ready to take on the world.  Let’s also say, John thinks this is a good idea, but returns to his former habits.

John does have choices and sooner or later, he will have to take decisive action or he will find himself in even greater trouble.  With minimal reflection and a desire to feel better, John can do Relaxation Therapy as described elsewhere in this Blog and immediately realize positive results.  All he has to do is DO IT!

Sometimes self-management of personal health can be as simple as that.  Not every positive health habit is so easy to do, but Relaxation Therapy is.  DO IT and you will feel better.  When you do, let me know your results so I can report your experiences to others seeking improved health.

This site and related Blog are about all of us working together, sharing results, searching for solutions.  You are a part of the TEAM if you so choose and your comments are always welcome.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Monday, February 17, 2014

HOW DO YOU DEFINE A PERSONAL CONCERN?

Words can be vague, elusive, confusing and deceiving.

We often think we know what we mean when using ordinary, everyday language, but the same word can mean many different things to different people.  The word love is a good example.

This Blog is based on the Social Learning Theory (SLT) of Dr. Julian Rotter.  The theory will be fully explained in later posts on this Blog, nevertheless I will explain the concept of Personal Concern from an SLT perspective.  It goes like this:

A Personal Concern from an SLT perspective is:

A high expectancy for losing something you value. (I might lose my good job)

A low expectancy for getting something you value. (I might not get the job I want)

When you complete the Personal Change Indicator (PCI) presented on other posts on this Blog and available at www.Tool4Change.com you will be examining your own concerns from this perspective.  It may seem too simple for some, but upon closer inspection, you might be surprised how many of your personal concerns can be reduced to these two simple statements.

Thinking clearly is very much what cognitive behavioral psychology is about.  When you have a clear idea as to the nature of your own concerns, you have a better understanding of where your feelings are coming from, and a clearer idea what action you can take to resolve your concern and related emotions.

This Blog was designed to help you find your own self-defined way to enhanced mental health and happiness.

As always, if you have questions or comments, please e-mail me and I will address the issues in future posts on this Blog.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Sunday, February 16, 2014

TEEING OFF WITH THE MASTERS: A SPORT PSYCHOLOGY NOVEL

In 1995 I wanted to take In The Zone performance principles to the world of golf.  It started when reading an article about Ben Hogan’s golf swing.  In the article, the author had identified basic principles of Hogan’s swing.  They were identical to the performance principles I had presented when writing in In The Zone.  I was curious.

I read as many books as I could on the subject and  history of golf and what the Masters of the game had to say.  I quickly discovered what they were saying paralleled In The Zone performance principles.

 I was off and running.  All I had to do is create a plot, develop an imaginary golf course and feature In The Zone principles within the context of a sport psychology novel.

It seems people learn better when exposed to stories and I wanted this story to reflect the mentality of regular, ordinary people on and off the course. I wanted to present how playing the game of golf has direct relevance to how we live our lives no matter where we are.  If you are out of control, angry and stressed while playing golf, this is predictive of how you live your life off the course.

In short, I wanted the reader to learn how In The Zone principles of elite performance apply to all aspects of our lives.  I had come full circle, back to Tension Management & Relaxation: An Approach to a Balanced Way of Living.  I was pleased to see how the basic ideas had remained unchanged over the years.  Teaching performance principles has been a good strategy.

I am reminded of the words of Miyamota Musashi, the greatest of Japanese swordsmen  
FROM ONE THING, KNOW TEN THOUSAND THINGS

When you learn basic performance skills with application to diverse performance challenges, you acquire self-confidence and an anchored sense of self.  This is much of what this Blog is about and acquiring Relaxation Skills is a significant step in this direction.

If you are a golfer, you may want to check out the Audio CD, TRUST YOUR SWING: THE POWER OF THE PENDULUM AND RHYTHMIC FLOW.  It is yet another expression of how Relaxation Skills can enhance your athletic performance.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Friday, February 14, 2014

IN THE ZONE: MAKING WINNING MOMENTS YOUR WAY OF LIFE


In 1995 I decided to take basic back health care and related wellness training into the world of elite performances.  I spent a year researching the issues of relaxation, balance, flexibility and focus, to learn their range of application to world class performers in sports and the performing arts.  I was looking for any such performer who could excel when one of the 4-Core Competences was lacking.  I found none.  All Elite Performers are relaxed, balanced, flexible, and focused.

I worked with many such performers and found even their performances could be enhanced when the 4-Core Competencies were carefully addressed, especially those of Relaxed Moves and Focused Moves.  It was exciting to learn how the basic principles of back injury prevention and rehabilitation applied so well within this environment.  The 4-Core Competencies were indeed, required performance skills and this provided the basis for my evolving emphasis on SELF-MASTERY SKILLS TRAINING.

What is equally interesting to see how the 4-Core Competences apply to activities of daily living in the general  population.  In our current culture, contrasted with our culture only a few decades ago, we understand the importance of deep relaxation, rhythmic breathing, mindfulness, meditation and, yoga.  We now appreciate how our highly stressed lives are improved when we acquire the skills taught within these environments.  In The Zone: Self-Mastery Skills Training does just that, and is exciting to see people take charge of their health, their well-being, and their lives.

When these skills are applied in the lives of individuals from various walks of life, I have seen dramatic enhancements in quality of sleep, reductions in depression and anxiety, significant reductions in physical pain and yes, even more calm dispositions as I had first mentioned in Tension Management & Relaxation: An Approach to A Balanced Way of Living.

A big part of this is how people are learning to reduce reliance on pharmaceutical drugs with self-mastery skills.  Just yesterday, a patient I am working with proudly reported he is no longer on any such drugs, is sleeping great each and every night, is feeling better and no longer abusing any form of drug, over the counter, prescription or recreational.

If you are seeking similar results in your personal life, why not read through all of the posts on this Blog, starting with the first one in January of 2014.  Read each one as a continuing step in your evolving understanding  of how Relaxation Therapy can work for you.  I foresee abundant self-reliance forthcoming for those who do.

Remember, you ARE what you think:  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

CERTIFICATE OF APPRECIATION FROM VETERAN SUPPORT COUNCIL

SELF-NAVIGATION - IN A STORMY SEA

Today was a special day for me and I would like to share the experience with you.   I was invited to attend a meeting of the Veteran Support Council here at Sheridan VA Regional Medical Center.  Little did I know, the gathering was in my honor with a Certificate of Appreciation from the Council, acknowledging my work with Veterans and the significance of Relaxation Therapy to Veterans.  I was deeply moved.

Recovering Veterans face multiple challenges, many of which result from combat experiences and others from re-entry into civilian life.  I believe most would agree, life is a continuing challenge and no one said it was to be easy.  This is true for most of us, as it is clearly true for recovering Veterans.  Self-navigation in a stormy sea seems an appropriate metaphor for those knowing a healthy survival requires a steady ruddy and calmness amidst the storm.

This Blog is focused on the value of patient education leading to self-management of personal health and happiness, and this has been the continuing theme for this Psychologist since publication of Relaxation Therapy (RT) in the mid 1970’s. As such, RT provides participants with a self-help tool, reliably delivering a deep sense of relaxation and inner calm.  During 20 minutes of RT, participants let go of their tensions, into a rhythmic, relaxing process leading to activation of the parasympathetic nervous system.   In so doing, they become rested and more capable of meeting challenges when returning to a demanding work/life schedule.  In the words of Dr. Rick Hanson, in his book, Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm, and Confidence, “If you routinely practice relaxation, this will increase the activity of genes that calm down stress reactions, making you more resilient.”

Over four decades I have observed how RESTORED PEOPLE FEEL after an RT POWER NAP. Following RT, I often verbalize how nice it feels to be relaxed and you can feel like this throughout your day.  Development of reliable Relaxation Skills makes this possible.

You ARE what you think.

You BECOME what you do, and this is certainly true regarding the experience-dependent neuroplasticity of your ever-changing brain.

Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro 

FREEDOM FROM BACK PAIN

For those following this Blog and have read THE BACK SCHOOL post, you will find the following is part of an evolving story.  The Back School was a good start, but new concepts were forming in my mind and new communication technologies were rapidly entering the training scene.
I addressed these issues in my new Freedom From Back Pain video based training program, focused on greater training impact in the educational process.  This led to Freedom From Stress and Back Pain and the introduction of many new training procedures, including various martial arts performance skills.  The newly completed program was implemented within numerous employer environments across North America.  You can check this out at www.FFbackpain.com
Freedom From Back Pain, and then Freedom From Stress and Back Pain, contains four training modules referred to as RELAXED MOVES, POWER MOVES, ELASTIC MOVES and FOCUSED MOVES.  An introduction to these modules can be reviewed on the above site.  Relaxation Therapy and the Position of Comfort are presented in the Relaxed Moves module.
As communication technology expanded, I contracted with PRIMEDIA in Dallas, TX and created Watch Your Back for the nationwide audience of policemen and firemen.  This broadcast represents one of the first implementations of back injury prevention training within the workplace learning environment.
Of course, this isn’t the end of the story.  In 1995 I published In The Zone: Making Winning Moments Your Way of Life, representing another training advance into the world of Sport Psychology.  The 4-Core Competencies of Elite Performers In the Zone was the next evolutionary step as relaxation, balance, flexibility and focus were further sharpened into the training procedures they are today.  We have come a long way from sound on slide presentations, to video based programs, DVDs and MP3 files downloaded from the internet.
Our next step, in January of 2009, was to implement First Aid for Back Pain with PureSafety online training out of Nashville, TN.  Once again, Relaxation Therapy in the Position of Comfort was featured as an important step for those employers and employees wanting to self-manage relief from their back pain. 
I am currently considering introducing IN THE ZONE SELF-MASTERY TRAINING procedures within web training environments, again pursuing ever more advanced training as I continue to include the ever advancing communication technologies.  The program includes new information, particularly information resulting from research in the new science of the brain.
New measurement technologies and exciting new research findings are shedding light on the secrets of the brain and how it functions.  It is exciting to see how Relaxation Therapy and Self-Mastery training continues to play a central role.  Scientists are learning more about the importance of deep relaxation and deep rhythmic breathing, and how they positively affect brain development, the functioning of our nervous system, and so much more.
Currently, I work with patients within Individual and Group Therapy environments and continue to offer RT as a basic ingredient of the therapy I do.  I continually learn from my patients as I expect to learn from followers of this Blog.  You are encouraged to express your comments and questions.  New ideas often spring from unexpected sources and I will be pleased if one of these ideas comes from you.
Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.
Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro 

Sunday, February 9, 2014

THE BACK SCHOOL

My particular contribution to The Back School, along with Orthopedic Surgeon Dr. Arthur White and Physical Therapist Bill Mattmiller, was helping to resolve the psychological side of back pain.  I knew a little about the subject, having experienced back surgery when I was 27.  Following the questionably successful surgery, I routinely experienced a good deal of pain, especially toward the end of the day.  I didn’t want or use muscle relaxants or pain killing medications, and eventually discovered what helped me most was simply to lie down and relax.  I didn’t have RT to assist me at the time, but what I did reduced my pain.

Eventually, over several years, I learned how to counteract back pain and started working with back patients sent to me by physicians who thought I knew something about the problem.  I was working at the Eisenhower Medical Center in Rancho Mirage, CA at the time.  One of the orthopedic physicians asked if I would present my work at a forthcoming meeting of the American Academy of Orthopedic Surgeons hosted by the Mosby Medical Publishing company.  Dr. White was presenting as well, and Mosby later asked if we would like to integrate our work in a Mosby publication.  Long story short, we did and in 1981 The Back School was born.

There are now many such back schools across North America with the same or similar name, but they do not contain RT as a basic educational component.  The Back School was dedicated to a holistic, team approach to patient education, leading ultimately to the prevention and self-management of back pain.

RT was an integral component of The Back School, as it has been in all of my subsequent works.  If interested, you can check out the evolution of Relaxation Therapy on the  www.relaxationtherapy.pro home page under the tab WHY RT?

Since back pain ranks among our nation’s leading health problems, I suspect many of you have a personal interest in learning more about the subject and I will be happy to help out.  For openers you can go to www.FFbackpain.com.  If you are a ‘Follower’ of Dr. Ray’s Blog, I will do my best to address your questions and comments via future posts.

Tension Management & Relaxation and The Back School were followed by The Portable Back School, 12-Steps to A Pain-Free Back, Freedom From Stress and Back Pain, In the Zone and Teeing Off With the Masters, all containing RT as a core concept and self-help procedure.  As you will see, there is reliable continuity in these works, demonstrating my continuing emphasis on the importance of Relaxation Therapy to those wanting to take better care of themselves.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro 

Saturday, February 8, 2014

WORKING WITH YOUR AUTONOMIC NERVOUS SYSTEM

When I introduced Relaxation Therapy (RT) in the mid 1970’s, I was confident control over the autonomic nervous system would be pivotal to mental health procedures in the future.  I felt the many existing techniques to relax and to develop a sense of calmness such as meditation, prayer and mantras had this basic skill in common.  I believed control over the nervous system of the body was the critical issue and this is what I chose to focus on.

As you may know, the autonomic nervous system has two basic divisions: the sympathetic for fight or flight and the parasympathetic for rest and digestion.  These two systems alternate with one or the other being dominant at any given time.  The rest and digest system is the one we want to be operative most of the time and RT generates this outcome.  The fight or flight system is for emergencies and for  high alert and high energy responses when needed.  Let’s look into this.

When you do RT or even do Deep Rhythmic Breathing alone, your bodily disposition moves toward parasympathetic activity.  This is very useful during the day to reduce stress and it is very useful when wanting a good night’s sleep.  These subjects will be addressed more fully in future posts on this Blog.  For now, come to appreciate how important this is for you.  It is natural for most of us to become increasingly tense during the day.  This can be easily turned around with an RT Power Nap which includes Deep Rhythmic Breathing and takes about 20 minutes.

Staying relaxed in high challenge situations is very useful and I first referred to it as learning how to live in the EYE OF THE STORM.  This was in my Mosby/Times Mirror publication, TENSION MANAGEMENT & RELAXATION published in 1981. Since that time I have taught this skill to NBA and LPGA athletes, corporate executives and their employees, soldiers, veterans and people from all walks of life.

Mediation, Mindfulness and other important procedures facilitating relaxation are now common in our culture.  RT is a bit different from these procedures because of its specific focus on managing the autonomic nervous system and specifically the parasympathetic division as mentioned above.

As always, if you have any questions or comments please utilize the Comment box and I will review them.  I will address the issue in future blogs or e-mail you directly.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

THE POSITION OF COMFORT AND DEEP RHYTHMIC BREATHING

When you do Relaxation Therapy (RT) I have observed the Position of Comfort works best for most people.  It works well because the position, by elevating your legs, takes pressure off your lower back and does stretch the spine slightly.

Whether you lie on the floor or use a chair, as presented in RT instructions, it is most importance you are comfortable.  If you are not, find a position that suits you and proceed to do RT in your own way.  Some people actually sit in their chair, as I often do.  Just be sure your lower back curve is supported so your low back does not slouch into a strained position.

Now you are in the POSITION OF COMFORT and will initiate DEEP RHYTHMIC BREATHING.  While you will engage in Deep Rhythmic Breathing during RT, you can also do it anytime during the day to remain relaxed and to regain your composure when needed.  The more you do it, the more it becomes a tension management skill. Many people hold their breath and do shallow breaths far more than they realize, which actually adds to their tension and stress related responses.

When you do Deep Rhythmic Breathing, focus mostly on the breathing itself and how each micro step in the breathing process has a positive effect, from inhalation to exhalation.  There are no hard and fast rules, but it is useful to inhale through your nose to the count of 4, while also EXPANDING your stomach, and then to exhale through your mouth to the count of 8.  Don’t stop and hold your breath when you come to the top of the inhale.  When you complete the inhale, immediately start the exhale and continue to focus on your chest, your stomach, and how the slow rhythmic breathing relaxes your entire disposition.  The more you practice, the more effective it is.

Pregnant women should not use the Position of Comfort because this is not a comfortable position for them, nor should people with rheumatoid arthritis because remaining is such a position for an extended period of time can cause contractures.  The majority of people will be just fine with the Position of Comfort as presented.

One Veteran I was working with used the MotivAider to remind him to do Deep Rhythmic Breathing every 20 minutes and reports how significant this has been for effective self-management of his overall emotionality. The MotivAider is an interesting and most useful tool developed by Dr. Steve Levinson. You can go directly to his site to see how the MotivAider works and order one if you like.   http://www.motiv-aider.com/
Just so you know, I do not receive any compensation regarding your purchase of the MotivAider.  I recommend it because I know its value for those who want to accelerate desired behavioral changes in their lives.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray


 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Sunday, February 2, 2014

PERSONAL CHANGE INDICATOR (PCI) ONLINE

I have observed how difficult it is for people to find their focus.  There are so many things going on each day, every moment, to distract us.  They all seem important and we tend to deal with the ones most in our face.  We tend to the issue of the moment, bypassing a more thoughtful, systematic plan for the achievement of short and long term goals.
Aware of this prevalent human tendency, I developed an online psychological self-assessment tool called the PERSONAL CHANGE INDICATOR to help you quickly find your focus, a most important step toward rapid personal change.

Here's how it works.  The PCI functions like a highly efficient, well-organized mind. Starting from the perspective of a wide-angle lens, you will examine a panorama of possible concerns. The PCI will automatically adjust your lens, rapidly prioritizing these concerns according to their relative significance to you. Zooming in for a close-up, the PCI will surface your most significant personal concern, available immediately and only to you in your online "This is Me!" report.

You have set the stage for FOCUSED ACTION.

The PCI was designed to provide you with complete anonymity and fully protects your personal privacy.  I wanted you to be able to look into the mirror, see yourself honestly, examine what you see, and make thoughtful decisions to change our life with your very clear, self-defined focus. 

Of course, you will use your own self-assigned username and password and your PCI reports will be maintained in your private, personal file which only you can access.  When you review current PCI completions, and compare them with previous completions, you will quickly observe desired personal change progress.
It is important to note the PCI always measures CURRENT PERSONAL CONCERNS as our concerns often change dramatically from day to day. For example, you may have no such concerns today and then learn tomorrow someone has emptied your bank account.  The PCI will now measure all the new concerns starting with a Primary Concern for Financial Matters.  You see how it works?

So, if you are so inclined, go to the PCI at www.Tool4Change.com 
You will need an access code to take the PCI.  If you want one, just e-mail me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro  and we will send you the code in short order.

Remember, you ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.

Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro 

FOCUSED ACTION

FOCUSED ACTION is a key concept of Relaxation Therapy (RT) as a basic methodology for  your self-management of personal health and happiness:

Consider the following:
Finding your focus is essential
Overcoming indecision occurs as you identify your particular course of action
Creating a winning strategy becomes your game plan
Using the power of mindfully directed attention carries you to the end zone
Succeeding through focused action is the pay off
Finding and implementing your focus is FOCUSED ACTION.
Deep relaxation is essential to Focused Action, as you systematically clear your mind and strengthen your coping skills, build your immune system and establish a balanced and comfortable personal disposition.  Building RELAXATION SKILLS provides a powerful foundation for successful focused action as outlined above.
Distracted people, lacking clear goals and a way to achieve them, comprise the large majority of people seeking psychotherapy.  When you become capable of truly effective Focused Action you will discover needs for professional assistance diminish and often disappear.
Unnecessary dependence on others, dismisses our profound privilege as intelligent, self-reliant, independent people to direct our lives as we so choose.
There are many environmental influences directing us to follow the lead of others.  This can change through self-directed FOCUSED ACTION.  It does take work and persistence, but it can be done.
You ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.
Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro
 

FOCUS IS EVERYTHING

I say it every day because it is so true, because your ability to focus shapes your capacity for success in most everything you do. Winners, successful people, in all walks of life have clear focus and they maintain their focus throughout the moments of their day.  They know what they want for themselves and they do what it takes to achieve their goals, short and long term.

Every successful athlete, executive, soldier, veteran, anyone from any walk of life who succeeds, has clearly defined goals and the passion to achieve them.  It is not always easy and this requires persistence and resilience when engaged in anticipated and unexpected challenges.

When it comes to therapy, I have yet to meet an individual who came for therapy for any other reason than they didn’t feel the way they wanted to feel.  Along with a sense of emotional discomfort, tension, anxiety, depression, anger and other troubling feelings, they rarely know what is causing all of this.    At best, they are vague in their understanding of what they want, not to mention how to achieve it.

One of the first things I do with most anyone I work with is start Relaxation Therapy (RT) as soon as possible.  With RT completed, these same troubled individuals feel calm, clearer of mind, more aware of who they are and where they want to go.  NOW, the stage is set for truly focused therapy and ultimately FOCUSED ACTION.

Begin each day after a restorative good night sleep induced by RT.  Replace tension, fatigue, depression and anxiety with a calm, balanced, energetic disposition.

I say the above with confidence, because I have participated in the process with individuals from all walks of life and it works for them, as it will for you.

Do RT on a regular basis as you steadily build your Relaxation Skills.

You ARE what you think.  You BECOME what you do.
Dr. Ray

 For any of your comments or questions, email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro

Saturday, February 1, 2014

RT POWER NAP in 20 MINUTES, Anywhere, Anytime

I have observed thousands of participants in RT training classes who reliably enter a deep state of relaxation their first try.  I have also observed RT takes 20 minutes or less providing an immediate, refreshing POWER NAP. 

All you need to do is close the door of your office or any room wherein you have some privacy and won’t be interrupted, you can lie down in the position of comfort (as presented in The Position of Comfort video, on this blog) or you can sit in your chair, as long as you are comfortable and have good back support.  Put on your head phones and relax into the soothing words and rhythms of Relaxation Therapy. People reliably comment how relaxed and refreshed they feel.

Please know this is not an accidental happening.  RT is designed to reset your autonomic nervous system, by turning on your parasympathetic nervous system; the system responsible for REST and DIGEST.

All you need to do is - DO IT. 

And the more you do it, the better you get at it, as you develop your relaxation skills, the more rapidly you will experience the benefits of deep relaxation.

Deep rest during your busy day will significantly accelerate your productivity, not to mention the many physical and emotional benefits you will enjoy.

For those of you who have experienced the above, let me know the outcome so I can share your comments with others in future blogs.  Part of the purpose of this blog is to share the word.

You are what you think and you become what you do.

Dr. Ray

For any comments or questions email me at drray@relaxationtherapy.pro